I Am 87 Years Old: If You Cannot Live Alone, Consider These Alternatives Before a Care Home
Deciding where to live as your needs change is one of the most deeply personal choices you will ever make. For many, the prospect of moving to a nursing home or skilled care facility feels like a loss of identity, autonomy, and comfort.
But here is the truth: Moving to a care home is not the only path.
Many older adults thrive in settings that are less institutional and more independent, yet still provide the necessary support. At 87, I have learned that independence isn’t about doing everything yourself—it’s about having the choice in how you live.
Here are compassionate, practical alternatives to consider before making that final move to a facility.
1. Aging in Place with In-Home Help
For many, the dream is to stay in the home filled with memories. With the right support system, this is often possible even when physical abilities decline.
How it works:
- Home Health Aides: Professionals who assist with Activities of Daily Living (ADLs) such as bathing, dressing, toileting, and meal preparation. Note: Medicare may cover these services if they are deemed medically necessary and prescribed by a doctor.
- Companion Caregivers: Non-medical helpers who provide companionship, light housekeeping, grocery shopping, and medication reminders. This can be private pay or sometimes covered through Medicaid waivers or long-term care insurance.
- Meals on Wheels: Beyond just delivering nutritious meals, this service provides a daily wellness check and a human connection.
💡 The Benefit: This option preserves your independence and routine while adding a safety net. You remain in control of your schedule and environment.
2. Move in with Family (With Clear Boundaries)
Moving in with adult children or relatives can be a wonderful solution, but it requires careful planning to preserve relationships. It should be a partnership, not a burden.
